New Year's Dating Resolutions for 2019
Posted on Friday, December 28, 2018
Now, 2019 is just a few days away. We are saying "Thank u, next" to 2018 and leaving the past behind to make new beginnings. It is time to assess your life decisions in 2018, learn from your mistakes and make New Year's resolutions to start 2019 as strong as you can be. No matter what happened in 2018, we have to use it as a bridge that will bring us to a brand new and better time ahead of us.
New Year's dating resolutions for 2019 could be regarding many things. You may be tired of casual relationships and want to settle down. Maybe, you have realized that you can not tolerate people who might be the one for you just because of their little quirks. You might have some dating patterns that mislead you. Figuring out your wrongs and needs is the first step for a romantic dating life. These 5 easy-to-keep dating resolutions for 2019 will protect you from engaging in self-destructive behaviors and enable you to have whatever you want in a relationship.
1. Understand Your Relationship Goals
"I will try to listen to myself and recognize what I want out of a relationship. I definitely will not let others and the society affect me and persuade me to do something I don’t want."
Comprehending your relationship goals is an essential first step. Protecting your thoughts from outside opinions is crucial for this. People may affect or even change your mind, do not allow them to do it this year. Know what YOU want.
Ask yourself:
*Do I want a serious or casual date?
*What characteristics of the other person do I like the most?
*What traits should my date have?
*What are traits of my date that I cannot take?
*What behaviors of my date are tolerable, and to what degree?
*What should my date do to make me feel like myself?
These questions focus more on your ideal date, and your wishes will help you figure out your relationship goals.
2. Have Higher Standards
"I will not be over-tolerating my date if they do something hurtful, insulting, offensive, or in my red-flag zone over and over again. I will not purposefully indulge my date just because I am afraid of getting into troubles, breaking up, and being alone."
Acting based on the fear of conflicting with your partner or breaking up is a serious relationship problem. At first, you may think what they did is not so bad, and you may feel that way, too. Nevertheless, it will be a big problem for you in the long term. The more you ignore, the more issues you will get. Pay attention to repetitive red flags. It may be being rude to a waiter all the time or an alcohol problem. Whatever it is, you deserve a better person than them. You may try to forgive and move on after a few mistakes. However, if it repeats all the time, nothing is worth your sanity or peace. Therefore, you must be confrontational and brave enough to be happy and get what you want in life.
3. Give a Chance to Love
"I will not judge someone because they are weird or not just my type. I will give a real chance to my dates."
The truth is that nearly everyone can stress out on the dates and cannot express themselves in a good way. Even when the first date does not go so well, you may still consider giving another chance to your date. You need to expand your horizons and give yourself a chance to be happy because you deserve it. Of course, if your instincts will say your date is dreadful or an absolute deal-breaker for you, they will make you think you have to move on and not date them again. However, if you feel like "Despite a bad night, your date is still nice." give them another chance to get to know them. You may miss great people by judging people too early. Do not forget that you can find love in the most unexpected situations.
Stef Safran, matchmaking and dating expert, says: "Decide what areas you might be open to meeting someone that, last year, you would not give a chance to." Hence, you can consider giving another chance to the dates you had in 2018. They might have deserved another chance, so go for it!
4. Be Yourself
"I will not try to be someone else just because my date loves it. I will not compromise myself for the sake of others. I will appreciate how wonderful I am this way."
Let us be clear. Of course, you need to improve yourself. There is a difference between improving yourself and changing your personality for someone else. Accept yourself for who you are. Do not try to change yourself for someone else. You are a unique and perfect person in your way. Acting out is just an awful idea that you should not even consider doing in 2019. Assess your behaviors in your past relationships. Think about what you have changed while in a relationship in 2018. For instance, trying to hide your feelings or acting like not caring about something that bothers you. Learn from your mistakes and avoid doing them again in 2019 for a better love life.
5. Learn to Be Single and Happy
Being single might give you a hard time often. However, instead of being in a terrible relationship with someone who hurts you all the time, being single and happy is so much better. You do not need anything that doesn't bring joy to your life. It is just a waste of time for both of you. It is not easy to leave your comfort zone even in an unhappy relationship, and you may end up spending your years in a miserable relationship missing other opportunities, even The ONE. If you do not want to be single in 2019, you should consider new options out there.
You can stop stalking your ex and get a life for yourself, attend social events more, stop ghosting people, try online dating and find cute people there. Online dating is used by millions of singles because it is the smartest and easiest way to meet new people now. I believe 2019 will be an incredible year with your new dating resolutions. Make your new year's resolutions come true this year, and do not delay them. Know what you expect from a relationship, do not compromise yourself for anyone, give a chance to love, and most importantly, learn to be happy on your own. No matter what, be yourself as your unique and wonderful self as you are now, and you will amazingly stand out among thousands of other people.
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