Posted on Tuesday, September 12, 2017
So you want to know why you should be filling in those boxes and boxes of questionnaires. We all know it is time-consuming indeed, it may seem dreadful or way too long but they are important. Yes, if you want to find love instead of spending hours and hours online without getting results you should try filling in these annoying boxes with real information. Besides you should take advantage of these information boxes about yourself after all, how many times in life you get an opportunity to introduce yourself with all of your likes and adventures. Not many I'm guessing. You can't keep talking about yourself when you meet someone new. It has to happen naturally over time and that might end up being a waste of your time. Online dating makes it easier to find like-minded people and these profiles are very crucial to find and attract the right people.
- Figure out who you are
This is very important you want to use adjectives that describe you the best. You want to show your uniqueness and your best qualities; to do this you need to put on your thinking cap and spend some time on it. Find some adjectives that describe you the best and stay away from the generic ones since they harm your case more than they help it. You can also ask friends for help; which adjectives would they use if they were to set you up with someone? Once you are done finding the best fitting adjectives it's time to write that perfect profile.
Be sure to include what you truly care about, the right people you want to attract will think it is awesome. However, keep in mind this is not a resume. You can talk about your job if you are passionate
- Do not lie
Be honest at every stage. You don't want to talk to the masses you want to attract the right people who want the same things. You may want a committed relationship or want the opposite but just be honest about it. You don't want to start a relationship with a lie because it will rarely survive the lie. No matter how minor the lie don't do it. It may be your age, hobbies, etc. once you lie on your profile you can't really tell them, "oops I wrote all those things to attract as many people as I could." They are strangers reading your profile if they catch one lie they will think you always lie.
- Red flags to avoid
Do not have angry rants about your ex, negativity, or pessimism about your own life. Do not give too much disclosure about money or finances, you may seem like you are here to find a sugar daddy/ mama if you do. You don't want to sound sad or needy when writing your profile no matter what your life experience has been like. You want to show your charming, positive, friendly, and humble attitude. Anyone is capable of being happy and charming if anything you just need to write your profile when you are in that mood. These kinds of charming people are fun to be around, so when you are writing your profile keep that in mind. You don't have to lie about anything; just be yourself, the self when you are happy.
-Concise but informative
So we kept emphasizing the importance of filled profiles, but there is a small trick to it; do not go overboard. You don't want to write a novel in this section; you want to put enough so people are interested, but not too much where they lose interest. You do not want random strangers knowing everything there is to know about you, where they do not need to write to you because they already know everything. Also, if you write too much there is a 86% chance people will lose interest and stop reading your full profile. They won't even make it to the end. They are here because they have time restraints so be respectful of people's time.
On the other hand, you want your profile to reflect who you are. Try to think of your most interesting traits, hobbies, and activities that you'd be most excited about for someone new to learn about you. Just show who you are and what you are looking for, to attract the right people. If you are funny don't say you are funny, show them you are funny. You can do this by funnily writing your profile. Do this by keeping in mind that you don't want to use too much sarcasm since it can be hard to interpret or make you sound insecure. Read over what you have written and see if any parts might be open to misunderstandings.
-Grammar is important
Yes, you may not be a writer or a grammar nerd, but when writing your profile you need to be extra careful. A profile with tons of errors will seem as it's not a legit account, you are not very educated or you are not taking this very seriously. So proofread your writing before you submit it. stupid errors are super unsexy.
-Ask yourself
Once you are done writing and filling in the boxes ask yourself this one question: would you date this person? If your answer is no, then you need to go back and either add or subtract some things. You want to attract the right kind of people so read it over and over again until you are certain you will get the person you want to with this profile.
Your ex- NO one needs to know how bad your ex-treated you or what happened. They just want to know if you are worth sending a message to.
Race/Religion/Politics- Of course, it is fine to talk about these topics on your profile but you need to be careful when talking about sensitive subjects. You can write about what you believe in so you attract someone whose beliefs and views align with yours but there is a line you shouldn't cross. You shouldn't be aggressive when writing about these subjects. It looks like you are ramming your views down others' throats and that's anything but sexy.
Long lists of things you do and do not want from a relationship- One of the best qualities of online dating is that you can find the type of person that embodies the qualities you desire in a partner. But you shouldn't be listing what you want, this is not a shopping list. It is not meant for you to order a human you want. You can have an idea of characteristics you want in a partner, but not have specific lists of exactly what you want. Especially if these are physical specifics.
Clichés- Stay away from generic adjectives or sentences, think of creative ways to describe yourself and show your uniqueness. This person who came across your profile liked your photos and started reading what you had to say about yourself. They will not think you are the one by reading the same sentence that was used in a hundred other people's profiles. If you are the same as the last person, what is there to talk about. Staying away from the clichés and writing about yourself will enable the person to write to you and break the ice much easier.
Your Age- This is only if you are being concerned about getting older and are about to write something insecure about your page. DON'T. Many men want to run a mile from any woman who appears insecure about her age. Do not write anything about your biological clock ticking and other sentences in such a manner, your potential suitors don't need to know you are desperate.
Money- we mentioned this earlier but it is important to re-emphasize. Do not mention money on your profile. If it doesn't belong on a dinner table discussion, it doesn't belong on your profile. No matter what you are talking about; may it be not having enough or having too much do not mention it. No matter how you put it, 90% of the time it looks terrible and can be interpreted in a bad way.
To sum it all up all you need is a little bit of effort and some optimism. Use common sense and think from an outer perspective; what would you think if you came across this person. This is a great way of looking at things because you can lose some of that bias you might have and be more subjective. This goes without saying, just be yourself, show your uniqueness and stay away from your bad side when writing your profile. Now go on and finally write that perfect profile to get your matches excited to have found you.
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