Posted on Thursday, October 12, 2017
#1 You have a gut feeling
If you have that feeling coming from deep down and you genuinely feel your relationship is healthy then you know it is indeed healthy. Every relationship is unique and you would know this better than any blog writer or psychologist. Of course, you would want to read what aspects of your relationship make a healthy relationship and for that here we are writing some of those aspects we think your relationship carries.
#2 You make future plans
Being able to discuss the future together and making plans for the future is a good sign and shows that you two are on the same page it also shows you two see each other together in the future as well. It takes some time and trust to get to that point and you need a healthy relationship to be able to think that way. Making plans for the future also means, you two are committed to the relationship and you think of your partner when you think of the future. This is one of the main signs of healthy relationships because it enables both parties to feel secure and ensures that one of the partners won't pack and leave one day.
#3 You have inside jokes
Having inside jokes or pet names for each other means that you both have shared history and you are being psychologically territorial. You want others to know you two are an item by giving pet names, thus being territorial and being cute at the same time. Having inside jokes strengthens the relationship and the bond between two people. Inside jokes come from shared experiences and the fun had in the past, it is also a great reminder of all the fun you had together.
#4 You trust each other
Trust is the most important factor in a relationship and has to be there for that relationship to move forward. So this is not really a luxury to have in a relationship it is a necessity. It doesn't mean you have a healthy relationship when you have trust, on the contrary when there is no trust in a relationship that is an unhealthy relationship that is bound to collapse any day now. Trust is the strongest glue for a relationship, it is hard to build trust and should never be broken. If it is indeed broken you need to mend it if you can or else that relationship will see tons of trouble until it ends tragically.
#5 You express your individuality
You should compromise for each other, do things together and have some common grounds but showing your individuality shouldn't impair any of these. You should never have to sacrifice who you are and what you like. Indeed expressing your individuality is super important for the continuity of your relationship. For both of you not to get bored of each other and build more interest, this is important. Additionally, you should never lose yourself in a relationship in order not to lose yourself in that relationship you need to continue doing what makes you happy. You can achieve that by expressing your individuality and taking some "me" time.
#6 You have similar life goals and values
Being on the same page with your partner is important, working for a common goal, or wanting the same things in life is very important. You are dating them to have a future together and if you both have different ideas of that future, at some point you both would have to go onto different paths or one of you would have to compromise something so big and end up being depressed and resenting the other person -- that is anything but healthy.
#7 You are enjoying yourself
As long as you are happy and you are enjoying yourself everything is good. Healthy relationships are full of fun and laughter, it doesn't mean there are no fights or off days but being able to have fun together even with the simplest tasks means that you are onto that healthy relationship wagon.
#8 You fight
Fights are a big part of relationships and they are very healthy to have if what you are fighting is worth the fight. If you are fighting that means you are talking about subjects that matter and you are caring about each other. Of course, there are different types of fights and you need to pick your fights wisely and know what is worth the argument. Know that having no fights at all is the opposite of having a healthy relationship so never think your relationship is going downhill just because you are having fights sometimes, not fighting at all only means you are not talking.
#9 You make decisions jointly
Deciding on things together is important and sometimes you will have to compromise but coming up with a common decision is important. It is also necessary for both parties to have the equal say in things when making decisions in a relationship. Coming up with one decision made collectively can be hard and at the beginning of the relationship the dominant one could take the reins but you should both try to overcome that. Making the relationship a place where both parties feel like their voices are being heard is very important for the health and strength of the relationship.
#10 You find balance
Having a busy schedule and a significant other can be hard to balance but finding that balance is very important if you value both of these things. If you don't balance them out and give more attention to the other, you might lose one of these dear things to you.
#11 You let things go
Fighting is important but there will be times where you have to let go and forgive. Those small fights that you can't even remember after one week, just let go of that anger and continue your relationship. If you can't let go, have a chat with your significant other and let them know what you are thinking before they turn into resentment and an eventual break-up.
12 Your relationship is your safe place
No matter what happens, seeing your relationship as a safe place is very important in a relationship. A place you can come to when you are feeling bad, good, or just meh are important components in a relationship. Your significant other should be the one you come to when you need a shoulder to cry on or an expert to ask advice. They should be the first one you go to whatever you may be going with. This shows trust and builds trust and allows you to see what a healthy and great relationship you have.
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