Posted on Tuesday, October 24, 2017
1. Accept the empty feeling
You will feel empty inside, and you will keep looking at your phone, to see if your ex-texted you. They were your significant other and hence took a big place in your life when that immediately ends, out of nowhere, it is normal for you to feel lonely. Don't worry you will soon get over this feeling. But for now, you just have to accept that empty feeling and try to move forward.
2. Cut off all contact for real
Whatever you don't try to hash things back with your ex. You guys broke up for a reason, and you need to stick to that reason and not contact them. If you do not go cold turkey, you will live through this hell over and over again. Also, It will take much longer for you to heal.
3. Feel your feelings
Cry, scream just feel your feelings and make sure you let it out as much as you can. Bottled-up feelings are the worst so just take some time to observe all those feelings. Once you took your time to feel your feelings, you will feel much better and be able to move on much easier. Be brutally honest with yourself at this stage as well, you want to feel everything and do not want to leave any feelings untouched otherwise with time you will encounter more problems.
4. Challenge your negative thoughts
You will have negative thoughts, or think of all the things that you have done and all the what-ifs that never happened. These thoughts are wrong, and you need to stop thinking that way. Instead, focus on the positive aspects and what you have learned from them. You can't change yourself or the past, so don't get upset over things you cannot change. Learn from your mistakes but never blame yourself for everything. Relationships are two-sided swords.
5. Organize your space
Focusing on something different will do you some good, and the best way to focus on something different is to organize. You can organize your desk, your wardrobe it can be anything just think of something else and to better yourself.
6. Remove painful memory triggers
All the photos together or other memorabilia, you don't need to get rid of those; but you can put all of them in a box and hide it in a basement. Just because you do not want to see it right now doesn't mean you will never want to see it. So pack it all and get rid of them at least for now. You don't want to keep looking at all the good memories when you least need them.
7. Get out and do things
Don't sit in your sorrow, go out and have some fun. If there was anything you wanted to do but your partner didn't want to do it, it is the perfect time to go out and do it. Just make sure you surround yourself with people who love you, and you are outside enjoying life. Yes, she\he might have broken your heart, and it might feel like life will never be the same. But that is temporary, going out and seizing the day will help you heal from this heartache.
8. Write about your feelings
Writing about your feelings will make you feel better and understand your feelings adequately. If you start understanding what exactly you are feeling, it will be easier to resolve the problems, and eventually, you will feel better. Write it out, may it be a diary, a thought journal, or just random pieces of paper where you dabble about your breakup.
9. Unfollow them from all social media accounts
You will be tempted to stalk them and see what they are doing and with whom. We will have to tell you the same thing as your best friend- Stop. You need to stop stalking them immediately because if you do not detox yourself from them on social media you will get more obsessive and feel worse. Unfollow and unfriend your ex-partner- At least until you have healed. Once you are over him/her and have moved on, you can befriend them if you still want to. But for now, when you are still drowning in your sorrow, don't be tempted to look at what they are doing online.
10. Begin an intense rage-filled workout routine
If you are angry and filled with rage by the way things ended, you can benefit from starting an aggressive workout plan. First of all, working out you will be making that revenge body a reality. Secondly, you would be taking your anger out by working out. It is a win-win situation for your mental and physical health.
11. Start swiping
Go online and swipe through tons of singles to feel better knowing you will find someone eventually. You can even find someone, just right for you. But make sure to take things slow since you are still hurting, your judgment can be foggy. For this part, you can use Waplog. Waplog makes it easy to swipe through people, as it has filters to narrow things down according to your preferences.
12. Know it is OK to still love them
You were in love, and we all know it is not that easy to fall out of love. When you break up, you will still be in love with them; and we want you to know that this is OK. Feeling that way is very natural, and you shouldn't feel like there is something wrong with you. Eventually, you will feel stop thinking of them, and you will only feel happy for them.
13. Get back out there
Stop obsessing over the same person, you were in love and you dated; it was perfect when it lasted, and now it is time to move on.
It is time to get back out there and meet other people. Right now you might feel like your ex-was perfect, and you will never find someone like them again. You might even feel disgusted, just thinking of being with anyone else but we are here to reassure you this will pass. Once it does pass, you will eventually find someone better than your ex. Even if you thought your ex-was perfect, apparently they were not perfect for you; otherwise, you guys wouldn't break up now would you.
14. Listen to music
Listen to music according to your breakup grief stage. Start off with some sad romantic songs and cry. Then listen to some aggressive songs to take out your rage, and finally listen to happy songs that will lift your spirits up. Music is the perfect way to clear your head and feel better.
"If you prick us do we not bleed? If you tickle us do we not laugh? If you poison us do we not die? And if you wrong us shall we not revenge?" William Shakespeare
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