Posted on Friday, October 20, 2017
Do keep trying
Nothing worth achieving happens easily, so keep trying and take it seriously. Go on dates and keep it going, if you go on a date with a hottie and things are not too good but also not too bad either; give them a second chance, we are all more relaxed and comfortable the second time around.
Don't pretend to be someone you are not
Online dating is competitive and it might be easy to tweak some truths, but that tweaking can cost you the person you will eventually like. Just be yourself and you will attract the right people and eventually you will find someone, who will understand and love you to the core.
Do your research
Research the websites you want to use to make sure what you want aligns with the website's core. Don't sign up for a website known as a hook-up website, when you want a relationship. Additionally, do your research on the person you will meet up with. Yes, you do not want to seem like a creep or a stalker but you don't want to go meet a complete stranger. Do not look too deep into their Facebook or other social media accounts either you do not want to feel like you know everything there is to know about them. The best part of a budding new relationship is the getting to know part and you do not want to skip that.
Don't give out too much personal information
You are getting to know someone so you will need to share a lot about yourself and vice-a-versa, however, be aware of the information they are asking and you are supplying. Treat the other person with respect and friendly but be careful. Do not give out information you wouldn't give to a stranger. For example your home address, your daily routines, or your mother's maiden name. There are questions people shouldn't ask on a first date so be aware.
Do put your best face forward
Make sure you put the most flattering photos of yourself. You wouldn't want to put glam photos because you want to look like your everyday self in the photos. If you do not, then it would seem like you lied. However, you need to upload the most flattering and the most recent photos of yourself.
Don't carry relationship baggage with you
People who use online dating tend to start using online dating after a breakup, so no matter why you are on there do not carry that baggage with you. Don't let your past relationships have a place in your profile or your discussion with partner prospects.
Do be specific about your interests
Be specific about your interests and likes when you are writing your profile. You will find matches easier and faster if you write specific interests on your profile. If you write your profile vaguely, you will get fewer messages and have fewer subjects to talk about with your match.
Don't give up too easily
There will be times when all the waiting feels too much, and you have been there on a website for too long. If you haven't gotten any results that is totally okay. Do not give up easily and just keep messaging. Nothing worth achieving comes easily do not forget that.
Do be aware of the scams
There are scammers no matter which website or app you use. There will always be scammers, so use common sense and report them if you think they are trying to scam you. Read our blog post on how to tell if you are talking to a scammer; on safety for online dating.
Don't send indecent photos before meeting
They are strangers and no one has ever looked at someone's unwanted nudes and said: "I want to date this person." If these photos are unwanted, they are spam and will always be frowned upon.
Do establish boundaries
We have said it so many times, but yet again we can't help ourselves but mention it again; this is very important. Do not think you know this person, they are still strangers to you and you need to set your boundaries and act accordingly.
Don't be late
May that be responding late to a message or being late to a date, just do not be late. Playing hard to get does not work for online dating, so you need to accept that.
Do meet in a public place
For a first date meet at a public place where you two can talk but at the same time find a place where if things go south you can leave early. So no movie theaters or Saturday night dinner dates.
Don't make demands
Whatever you do, don't make demands of the person you want to meet and want to date. Online dating doesn't mean online shopping you cannot order a human. It looks very aggressive, annoying, and looks like you are describing your ex.
Do use your own transportation
Do not rely on your date to pick you up or drop you off at home. You do not know them yet, so you do not know if things will go horribly on your date. You may not want to see them after your date so just don't rely on them for transportation. Make sure you have your own transportation and always have a backup plan.
Do keep the conversation fun
Keep the conversation when messaging and on your first date light-hearted and make it fun. There is no need to go in-depth about why you don't like your roommate or your work. Yes, you can be serious at times but just keep it simple and fun at the end.
Do use an appropriate photo
-Do use a recent photo.
-Don't put photos that are too sexy- unless you are looking for a one-night stand.
-Don't use a photo of yourself with your arm around somebody of the opposite sex.
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